According to Webster, to negotiate means: to try to reach an agreement or compromise by discussion with others. In our current world, this is an extremely important skill. Unfortunately, our politicians seem to have forgotten this definition and the importance of reaching agreements.
It's important to practice this skill as early as possible. The ability to use discussions to try to get what you want in a non-violent way is invaluable. It can be used in social, educational and vocational situations. Example: students take a test and some earn grades lower than they expected. As a teacher, I have observed students dealing with this in various ways. Here are two scenarios I've witnessed.
One student was visibly upset and asks to speak with me about this. He demands that his grade be changed because he knows that his answers are correct. When we review the test, he has difficulty explaining why his answers are accurate. As he becomes frustrated, he accuses me of never liking him. He tells me that I was out to "get him" from the beginning of the school year. This is not a successful negotiation!
Another student was also visibly upset and asks to speak with me. He has calmed himself down and appears relaxed. As we go over the test, he explains his answers referring to his study guide. He has done a good job of explaining why he put down certain answers. I agree to accept some of his answers and change his grade. He has negotiated well, compromised and earned a higher grade.
The important aspect of this skill is realizing that you have to compromise. You won't get everything that you want but you'll get more than you had before. You both win. Practicing these types of situations and strategies with students using role play can help them navigate life's situations successfully. Using these strategies can help students gain a sense of confidence and accomplishment. Maybe our politicians should go back to school and practice their role playing. Definitely!!!
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